If my lady and me had imagined today’s life as our goal while getting to know each other, we would have sayed goodbye to each other in a friendly way 😂 .
I saw in my life various slave contracts on relevant web pages. With rules according to which the passive part must ask the active part for permission before he leaves the house. With rules that stated that the passive part should not wear underwear that covered the crotch at home. With rules according to which the master may use and beat the slave at any time. That a slave has the right to scream, but the master has the right to gag her if that disturbs him. And so on. I found it completely illogical how such a life should function. I found the term “Taken In Hand” for the passive part of a DD relationship bulky and inappropriate.
Now we are together for a year
And we have essentially built up a set of rules on our own, starting from a blank page. The resulting ruleset goes much further than almost all the rules I have ever read. We would have found people with shouch a ruleset weird, one year ago.
And now we both find it better from experience that the man is in charge. That it’s a kind of ignoring degradation not to use the lady regularly. That there are situations in which it makes sense to slap the lady several times in order to give her support in the relationship again. That it’s unfortunate that you can’t leave the lady chained at night more often because of the children.
Today I started to take more bank cards from my lady. Since yesterday she has to ask permission when she leaves the house (unless she goes to work). I’ve taken over the mail accounts and Facebook vour weeks ago.
She recently painted a picture of a bird in a golden cage. The bird is her. I was afraid for a long time to break the bird if I locked it up. Instead, I experience the bird blooming as I slowly but surely build rod by rod.
It blooms because I take it in my hand.